Helping Relieve Your Pregnancy Fears and Worries by Midwife Zoe

When a woman first looks at her positive pregnancy test a full range of emotions will be unleashed. Happiness, ecstasy, elation, but also disbelief, fear and extreme anxiety for some women. And guess what ???? It’s NORMAL.

Most mums and dads-to-be will worry. Reading up on “when will this awful morning sickness end?” or “how can I cure this awful morning sickness?” will become everyday life. Then you will head down the path of reading about miscarriage, labour, breastfeeding and whether you are ready for motherhood……..sorry to say “it’s too late to worry about that, you are going to be a MUM”.


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Early Pregnancy

A woman’s initial fear during the first few weeks of pregnancy is often the question of whether or not she will remain pregnant. Worries about miscarriage and pregnancy loss are extremely common.

The most common cause of miscarriage is unknown and perhaps caused by a random or incorrect combination of chromosomes of the eggs and sperm during fertilisation. However most miscarriages are spontaneous and unexplained and there is ABSOLUTELY nothing you can do to prevent them, which is why all that worry is not worth it. Easier said than done I know, but the less stressed you are about the chance that miscarriage may happen, the quicker the weeks will go for you to be in the safe zone.


Usually once you have passed the 12 week mark and celebrated the wonderful news with family and friends the anxiety will change dramatically. Usually by this time the fear is starting to surround worries about labour. Worries about whether your baby will have a health problem. Financial worries. Being frightened by everyone telling you real life birth stories (why do people tell you all the awful things….I will never understand that).

Anxiety over the ‘big day’ and being in labour can take over a pregnant woman’s worries. A way to help this anxiety is to:

  • research as much as you can about what your main concerns are. If it is the pain, read up as much as you can on pain relief options in labour. Read up on the physiology of pain and how a labouring woman has a body that will provide her with endorphins and oxytocin, a hormone that aids dilation and reduces stress.
  • The best advice we can give you is to attend antenatal classes. Whether it is BornOnline or in-hospital classes, it is so important to educate yourself on such a HUGE event in a woman’s life. Don’t go into it blind sighted. That is the best advice we can give.
  • Write down or formulate a birth plan so that the people in your birth room know your wishes. Just beware that things can change in the birth room, so be prepared to be flexible if other decisions need to be made.

Final Stages of Pregnancy

As the birth draws closer, most women find the initial ‘glow’ of pregnancy may have disappeared. You are tired from lumbering around with a big belly and a sore back. You may have become a little moody and have minimal energy. Most of your thoughts or worries will turn to getting enough sleep or dealing with the back pain or the symphisis pubis pain (this may limit your movement). Your thoughts will also head down the path of making sure you have everything ready for the arrival of your baby. You may also find that your relationship is changing with your partner. Out of all these things the most important thing we can tell you is to take each day as it comes and try as much as you can to prepare yourself for the changes that are about to take place in your life. It is important to accept that many things are out of your control – except for your ability to deal with change, worry and anxiety. Enjoy the last stages of pregnancy, before you know it you will have your gorgeous little bundle of joy in your arms and the pregnancy worries would have all been worth it.

Midwife Zoe

(This article contains general information only and is not intended to replace advice from a qualified health professional. All information is written from the experience and knowledge of the person writing the post).